Purity and Anti-Pornography Resources

One of the hard realities of our modern world is the widespread and pervasive nature of pornography.  Through the internet and social media, it is literally everywhere. Often times people stumble upon it when they are young and it can lead to years of shame and silent struggle.  Due to the nature of this struggle people feel like they have to fight this alone.  Parents often feel ill equipped to guide and protect their children.  This is a resource guide to help men and women who are struggling with this sin, for those hoping to better protect themselves and their families, and for those simply hoping to learn more.

I want to end on a great encouragement- if this is a struggle don’t give up hope!  Know the Lord’s love, his mercy, and his desire to help set you free.  Never be afraid to bring this to confession or simply come and talk about it.  There is hope and you don’t need to fight it alone!

 

Anti-Pornography Resources

Catholic Websites

Christian Websites

  • http://www.livebold.org/ Live Bold Magazine (online) is one of the fastest growing publications for men and men’s ministry.
  • https://www.joinfortify.com/ -Fortify is a great website supporting men and women who are overcoming a struggle with pornography.
  • http://www.purehope.net pureHOPE endeavors to provide Christian solutions in a sexualized culture, leading to a world free of sexual exploitation and brokenness.
  • www.pureintimacy.org/ Pure Intimacy is an online ministry of Focus on the Family devoted to the biblical truth that human sexuality flows from the image of God that we bear as male and female and is a good gift from God.
  • http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/ Setting Captives Free is a non-denominational ministry which teaches the biblical principles of freedom in Jesus Christ. Our Christ centered courses are free of charge and help people escape impurity, over-eating, substance abuse, gambling, smoking and more.
  • http://www.thepinkcross.org/ Pink Cross Foundation is a faith-based IRS approved 501(c)(3) public charity dedicated to reaching out to adult industry workers offering emotional, financial and transitional support. We largely focus on reaching out to the adult film industry offering education and resources to victims of sex trafficking and violence in the workplace. Pink Cross Foundation also reaches out to those struggling with pornography addiction offering education and large doses of truth to recover.
  • http://beggarsdaughter.com/ Beggars Daughter is a Christian site run by Jessica Harris for and to women who struggle with pornography. She does much to expose the lie women feel that “they are the only one” and offers real help and resources for women

GENERAL WEBSITES/ Resource Lists

Secular Websites

  • http://www.no-porn.com/ Since 1997, No-Porn.com has helped men and women of all backgrounds recover from pornography addiction.
  • http://www.pornharms.com/ Pornography Harms is dedicated to providing the most accurate peer-reviewed research on the harm from pornography, along with relevant news, opinion and personal experience.
  • http://www.socialcostsofpornography.com/ The consultation on The Social Costs of Pornography assembled leading experts in the fields of psychiatry, psychology, neurophysiology, philosophy, sociology, law, and political theory to present a rigorously argued overview of the problem of pornography in our society and to make recommendations. The primary purpose of the meeting was to examine the real nature of pornography in its moral and social consequences.
  • http://www.x3pure.com/ The primary objective of the X3Pure project is to enable a speedy and effective recovery for men, women, couples and parents dealing with Internet pornography and other sex-related addictions in the most confidential and professional manner possible.

Spanish Websites

INTERNET FILTERING TOOLS & MEDIA SAFETY

  • http://www.covenanteyes.com/ CovenantEyes helps you protect your family online. Learn how the Internet is used in your home.
  • https://www.netnanny.com/ – Net Nanny is another great resource for filtering the internet as it comes into your home.  It has many great resources for families.
  • http://www.enough.org/ Enough is Enough has recently launched a new multi-media program, Internet Safety 101, to educate, equip and empower parents, educators and other caring adults with the knowledge and resources needed to effectively protect children from the dangers of online pornography, sexual predators, cyberbullies and threats relating to social networking, online gaming and mobile devices.
  • http://www.internetsafety.com/safe-eyes-parental-control-software.php Safe Eyes is Mac, PC, and iOS compatible software that protects your family from harmful content and other dangers on the Internet.
  • http://www.isafe.org/ i-SAFE is a non-profit organization dedicated to educating and empowering youth (and others) to safely, responsibly, and productively use information and communications technologies.
  • http://www.familysafemedia.com/ Family Safe Media provides parental control solutions for families concerned about the profanity, promiscuity and violence in today’s media and entertainment.
  • http://www.cleanhotels.com/ CleanHotels.com is a network of lodging facilities that—based on some of the best research available—do not offer in-room, “adult” (pornographic) pay-per- view movies.
  • www.purehope.net/ pureHOPE seeks to assist parents in making an informed decision when purchasing filtering, blocking, or monitoring software for their family.
  • FBI Kids Safety – resource that teaches children about internet safety.

SELF-HELP GROUPS

12-Step Groups

  • http://www.saint-mike.org/csgsar/ Catholic Support Group for Sexual Addictions Recovery. Sexual addiction can lead to arrest and prison. Avoid that tragedy and find freedom from this compulsion. Join us in the quest for healing and purity
  • http://www.sa.org/ Sexaholics Anonymous International. Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.
  • http://www.sanon.org/ S-Anon International. S-Anon is a program of recovery for those who have been affected by someone else’s sexual behavior.

Men’s Groups

  • http://www.thekingsmen.org/ Under Christ the King’s universal call to serve, we as The King’s Men pledge to unite and build up other men in the mold of leader, protector, and provider through education, formation, and action.
  • http://www.promisekeepers.org/ Promise Keepers’ mission has been to ignite and unite men to become warriors who will change their world through living out the Seven Promises.
  • http://www.dads.org/ St. Joseph’s Covenant Keepers is an informal international network of Christian men, under the patronage of St. Joseph, dedicated to strengthening the family.

Women’s Groups

  • http://www.womenofgrace.com/en-us/default.aspx Women of Grace is a Catholic apostolate whose mission is to transform the world one woman at a time by affirming women in their dignity and vocation as daughters of God and in their gift of authentic femininity.

BOOKS

English Books
  • Be a Man! Becoming the Man God Created You to Be, by Fr. Larry Richards.
  • Boys to Men: The Transforming Power of Virtue, by Tim Gray and Curtis Martin.
  • Breaking Free: 12 Steps to Sexual Purity for Men, by Stephen Wood.
  • The Courage to be Chaste, by Fr. Benedict J. Groeschel, C.F.R.
  • Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, Every Young Man’s Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation, Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle: Honest Conversations About Sexual Integrity, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker.
  • Holy Sex! A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling, Mind-Blowing, Infallible Loving, by Gregory K. Popcak, Ph.D.
  • Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage, by Meg Wilson.
  • In the Shadows of the N et: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, by Patrick Carnes.
  • Pure Manhood, by Jason Evert.
  • Pure Womanhood, by Crystalina Evert.
  • Theology of the Body for Beginners: A Basic Introduction to Pope John Paul II ‘s Sexual Revolution, by Christopher West.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tool for Recovery, by Kevin B.Skinner, Ph.D.

Spanish Books

  • Amor y Vida, por Patrick Reidy.
  • La belleza de la sexualidad, por Tomás Melendo.
  • Como sanar las heridas de la adicción sexual, por Dr. Mark Laaser.
  • Como usar las nuevas tecnologías en la familia, por Marianela Jaúdenes.
  • La moral sexual explicada a los jóvenes, por André Leonard.
  • ¡Por favor, háblame del amor!, por Inés Pelissie du Rausas.

ARTICLES

English Articles

 

Spanish Articles

 

Fr. Todd Bulletin Article, July 22 2018

Dear Sacred Heart Family,

Our floor renovation is progressing very well and on schedule.  This past Monday, Fr. Tomy joined me on the farm for a tour and a visit.  I gave him a set of farm clothes in case a disaster happened but he came through unscathed without any manure on him!  It was also his first experience driving a tractor.  By the time we were done he was becoming an old hand.

 

With the example of our two patrons, the Sacred Heart and St. Mary, I want to turn to their example and wisdom for their direction and guidance in these two outposts of God’s Kingdom.  This week I want to turn to the example of our Blessed Mother.

Mary is a beautiful example of Discipleship, of what it means to be a Christian.  I am struck by her first and last words.   We meet Mary when the Angel Gabriel is speaking to her, asking her to be the mother of God.  Mary’s response to this request is “Let it be done to me according to your will”.  We hear Mary speak her last words when she is with Jesus at a wedding reception in Cana.  Seeing the need for wine she asks Jesus to take care of the problem and tells the servers to “Do whatever he tells you”.

We can learn a lot from Mary’s first and last words.  She begins by being totally open to God’s will- which is certainly harder to do than it is to say.  Those moments, big and small, come to each of us and we need to pray for the grace to also surrender ourselves.  It is important to remember that these moments are never a one-time event- our surrender to Jesus and His will is a daily choice.  Some days it is an hourly choice!  Mary said yes to the Angel Gabriel and she continued to say yes to the Lord even up to the foot of the cross.  Mary’s beginning posture of openness to God, even in incredibly difficult and confusing situations, was maintained throughout her life.  It needs to be the same for us.  When it is hard to say Yes Mary is there to pray for us and take her to Jesus just like she took that young couples need for wine to Him.

Which takes us to Mary’s last words- “Do whatever he tells you”.  Mary ends her words in the Gospels by simply pointing to Jesus.  If only our life can be that simple, where all we say or do would be words or actions that point to Jesus.  I have heard that a good metaphor for holiness is that of window.  The saints are a clean window, people through whom others can see Jesus clearly.  Jesus tells us He is the light that has come into the world. The question then becomes how much of His light can shine through us.

Mary, we ask for your help to surrender our lives more fully to Jesus on a consistent basis.  Help us to point always to you.  May our first words and our last words so define our lives.

 

God Bless!

Fr. Todd

 

Fr. Todd Bulletin, July 15 2018

Dear Sacred Heart Family,

I really enjoyed my first weekend with you.  Some of my family was able to join me for the 9:30 at St. Mary’s and the 11:00 at Sacred Heart.  With my big family, you will be seeing one sibling or another from time to time.  I enjoyed giving them a tour of both Churches.  Sunday evening, I went back for my day off and helped bale hay.

I need to apologize for the mess up with Mass this past Monday morning.  I had a key to give to Fr. Tomy so he could access the sacristy and celebrate the Mass.  With my family visiting and greeting, I forgot all about it and the key stayed in my pocket!  Again, I am sorry about that.

They are making great progress in the floor restoration.  When the viewing port is set up please take a peek.  Sacred Heart is already a beautiful Church and this will make it even more beautiful.  I am looking forward to celebrating Mass there when it is done.

Thank you for all those who came out for the Sacred Heart Golf outing this past weekend to support our parish and school.

I really love the fact that we are entrusted to the two hearts- that of Jesus and Mary together.  We could not ask for better caretakers!  Below are two prayers, one to Jesus and one to Mary. May we keep each other lifted up in prayer and ask for their help in living our mission.

I look forward to getting to know you as we go along.  I have always enjoyed joining families for dinner and, if it hasn’t been done yet, blessing the house while I am there.  A game of cards thrown in wouldn’t be amiss either!  Some people have been asking what I like to eat – I pretty much enjoy all food and I don’t have any allergies.  I don’t eat a lot of sweets and the only food I really don’t like is Mayonaise!

God Bless ~ Fr. Todd

 

 

Holy Heart of Jesus, Sweet Sanctuary of rest, bring peace to my soul and settle my spirit, especially in the matter of (special request)

I vow to place all of my worries and fears into the wound of your Sacred Heart, there to be tended to in accordance with your perfect will, which desires only the best and highest good.

Your love alone is enough, and I surrender to it; clinging to the hope of a swift resolution and trusting with confidence in all of your promises.

Amen.

 

O Most Blessed Mother, heart of love, heart of mercy, ever listening, caring, consoling, hear our prayer. As your children, we implore your intercession with Jesus your Son. Receive with understanding and compassion the petitions we place before you today, especially …(special intention).

We are comforted in knowing your heart is ever open to those who ask for your prayer. We trust to your gentle care and intercession, those whom we love and who are sick or lonely or hurting. Help all of us, Holy Mother, to bear our burdens in this life until we may share eternal life and peace with God forever.

Amen.