Update on Religious Ed



We are finally approaching the start of our classes!  And although we may never get used to dealing with accommodating the pandemic requirements and precautions we live under, we do adjust to them and try to live life as normally as possible.  Those accommodations for our classes will look a lot like what your children experience in school during the week.  We will review our COVID-19 policies and class procedures during a parents’ meeting on our first day of classes.

As a reminder, only students, catechists, and staff will be allowed in the building and classroom areas.  Students will be required to check in upon entering.   Students, catechists and staff must wear masks at all times.  Social distancing is required.  Parents will be required to provide a signed COVID-19 Health Screening Agreement, a completed Student Screening Checklist to enter the building each day of classes, and an appropriate and effective mask for each child (face shields are not acceptable).  Children will not be allowed in the building if any of the Screening Checklist questions are marked “Yes” or they display obvious COVID-19 symptoms.  Catechists and staff will conduct daily COVID-19 self-examinations per the Parish COVID-19 Reopening Policy.  Cleaning of the facilities will be performed in accordance with diocesan policies.

Our program this year focuses on simple, age appropriate, Scripture-based activities in support of Bishop Boyea’s calling for a Year of Scripture to begin this coming Advent.  The goal is to help families better understand the Bible through joining together in prayer, reading the Scriptures and Spiritual works, and discussing as a family what they have read.

Families are encouraged to talk during the week about what their children learn in class.  That may not always be easy given everything going on around us.  As I have mentioned before, I remember those years when Kimberly and I struggled to balance work, school, sports, scouts, visiting grandparents, and having fun as a family.  Getting our children off to CCD classes on Sunday morning was always a challenge between their early morning paper route and 10:30 am Mass.  Sometimes we grumbled about it, and sometimes we failed.  Although we are glad we don’t have to go through that phase of parenting anymore, we often wish we would have tried harder to make more time at home to pray as a family and teach our children their faith.

Our Catechism says parents have the first responsibility to educate their children.  That includes making sure they attend religious education classes, teaching the faith at home, and making family prayer part of the daily routine and decision making.  For our parish religious education programs to work, our children must experience all of us—parents, relatives, friends, and parishioners alike—engaged in our faith by outwardly living a life devoted to Christ through our words and examples.  They must see us as truly faithful to the virtues of patience, temperance, charity, humility, diligence, kindness, and chastity.  Not in a showy way, but in a way they can relate to.

Classes begin on November 1st for St. Mary on the Lake (after Mass), and November 8th for Sacred Heart (between Masses).  St. Mary on the Lake will meet monthly for classes.  Sacred Heart will meet on a weekly basis.  Class schedules for the year will be provided at the parent meeting and available on the parish websites.

There will be a parent meeting on November 8 in the Parish Hall.   Please drop your child(ren) off at the school for Religious Ed and head to the Parish Hall for your parent meeting.  

We are still in need of a catechist at Sacred Heart to teach Grades 5-6, as well as additional volunteers’ help on Sunday mornings to assist with student check-in.  If you are interested, or know of someone who may be, please contact me.  Please continue to pray for our parishes and children as we navigate this difficult time, and thank you for all your support!

Deacon John

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Fr. Todd Bulletin, November 1, 2020

Dear Sacred Heart and St. Mary’s,

November is a Holy month that begins with All Saints’ Day on November 1st and is followed by All Souls’ Day on November 2nd.

It is a season when we can look up at the example of the saints, who show us what a life lived in Christ, a life transformed by Christ, looks like.  All Saints’ Day is meant to be an encouragement, a reminder of just what is possible for God’s grace to do in our hearts.

A saint that I am encouraged by is St. Jerome.  Whenever I think of him, two aspects of his life come to mind.  The first is his love and dedication to Scripture.  He famously wrote: “Ignorance of Scripture is Ignorance of Christ.”  The second aspect of his life was that he had a terrible temper.  His anger caused a lot of damage in his lifetime, costing him friendships and hurting others.  It was one of the constant struggles of his life.  How good it is to remember this. The saints had their struggles, but what was important was that in the midst of them they remained with Jesus.  At times this drove them not to despair, but to their knees. In that ongoing struggle with grace their lives were transformed, their hearts softened, their souls joined ever closer to God.  Through that pattern of struggle, repentance, and striving with God, Jerome grew. The saints weren’t those who had all of their stuff together.  The saints were those who continually opened up all of their stuff to God. Let us be encouraged by the saints to run well this race of faith and let even our stumbling be moments that bring us to Jesus.

November is also the month we specifically remember and pray for those among our family and our friends who have died.  One of the beautiful things we do during this month is to offer special Masses of Remembrance.  At these Masses, we invite families to write the names of loved ones on simple crosses that they bring to the front so we can take time to pray together and present them anew to the Lord.  We light a candle in their honor and as a sign of our prayers for them.  These are moments important both for them to know they receive our prayers and also for us in the ongoing process of grief.  This month is a good time to remember that there is no timeline on grief and it can come and go at times that are surprising.  These Masses are important moments in that process to keep on walking through it with the Lord.

Our Masses of Remembrance will be:

Tuesday, Nov. 10th at 6pm at Sacred Heart

Thursday, Nov. 12th at 6pm at St. Mary’s on the Lake


God Bless,

Fr. Todd



Principal Anne Atkin Bulletin, November 1, 2020

Seven situations when you need to say “no” to your child

By Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PH.d

“Please can I? Can I? Huh? Can I? Can I? Puh-leeeze?!”
“You never let me do anything! It’s not fair! You only do things for my sister!”
“Everybody else gets to do it. Why are you always so mean?”


Setting limits with kids can be challenging. They may beg, bargain, cry, accuse, or demand relentlessly in ways that are wearing for parents. Some parents may give in just to avoid a battle. Others feel guilty for disappointing their children. Still others find themselves saying no at the top of their lungs. Saying no is an important responsibility for parents. Our no’s teach kids important lessons about life and getting along.

Here are seven situations when you may need to say no to your kids and some suggestions for how to do it.

1) Say no when their actions might hurt someone or break something. Preventing harm is the number one reason to say no. Children may have trouble anticipating bad outcomes, so they need adult guidance to help them make sensible choices. This kind of no helps kids learn to think ahead. Offering an alternative can redirect kids toward safer activities. Example: “No, you can’t jump on the couch. Someone could get hurt on the sharp table, or the couch might break. If you want to jump around, please go outside.”

2) Say no when they could do it on their own. Sometimes kids ask parents to do things for them that they could do on their own. While there’s nothing wrong with an occasional favor from a parent, children need practice to become competent and to see themselves as contributing in positive ways to the family. This kind of no helps kids learn to be capable. Offer training or support, if needed, but encourage your child to own the responsibility. Example: “No, it’s your turn to set the table. Do you remember how to do it? I’ll do one place as an example that you can copy.”

3) Say no when it’s a want, not a need. We’re constantly bombarded with ads but buying everything that appeals isn’t healthy or wise. While an occasional just-because treat can be fun, you certainly shouldn’t feel obligated to buy everything that strikes your child’s fancy. This kind of no helps children learn to tolerate disappointment and recognize that they can like something without owning it. You can acknowledge your child’s wish while not giving in to buying an unneeded item. Example: “No, we’re not going to buy it, but I can see why you like it! It’s very shiny.”

4) Say no when plans change. Life happens. Even when we intend to do something our children want, sometimes circumstances get in the way. This kind of no helps children learn patience and flexibility. Making a specific new plan can help your child cope with the delay. Example: “No, we can’t do that tonight. I was hoping we could, but then Aunt Margaret came by, and now it’s too close to bedtime. Let’s make a plan to do it tomorrow. Do you want to do it in the morning or the afternoon?”

5) Say no when someone else’s needs (temporarily) matter more. Kids are naturally self-centered, but considering someone else’s needs enables them to move past that. This kind of no helps children learn generosity. Painting a vivid picture of the other person’s feelings makes it easier for kids to embrace kind choices. Example: “No, you can’t go with your friends on Saturday. It sounds fun, but we have Grandma’s birthday party. We love Grandma so we want to make sure she has a good time on her birthday. I know she’s looking forward to spending time with you. She would feel hurt if you didn’t come.”

6) Say no when you’ll resent doing something. Resentment is poison in any relationship. It’s usually better not to do something than to do it with bitterness and anger. This kind of no helps children learn about healthy boundaries or compromise. You may be able to suggest a more do-able alternative to make your no easier for your child to accept. Example: “No, you can’t sign up for travel soccer because I don’t want to spend all day Saturday driving to far-away games. Saturday is our family time. I’d be happy to sign you up for the local team, which is less of a commitment for parents.”

7) Say no when it’s against your values. We teach our children about our values through the choices we make. Sometimes you may feel—and your child may loudly protest—that you’re the only parent making a certain decision, but you need to be true to your cherished beliefs. This kind of no teaches children about priorities and integrity. It may help to explain to your child the rationale behind your (unpopular) choice, but don’t feel like you have to convince your child that you are right. You are, after all, the parent. Example: “No, you can’t get a cell phone. I don’t think they’re appropriate for children your age, and I don’t want it to interfere with your schoolwork or family time.”

Your child won’t thank you for saying no, but sometimes a no is the best thing you can do for your child. Mountains of research show that the parenting style that is most beneficial for children involves a combination of warmth and limits. As an adult, you have a breadth of knowledge and experience that your child just doesn’t. You can empathize, compromise, redirect, or explain to soften the no, but for your child’s sake, don’t be afraid to say no when necessary.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/growing-friendships/201712/when-and-how-say-no-kids

God Bless, Anne Atkin, Principal

Sacred Heart School


Students are balanced: confident of mind, academics and Catholic Faith.

Serving the Community. Teaching our students to live and model the Catholic faith. Reflecting the unconditional love of Jesus.

Remaining structured with the purpose of graduating students who are prepared to persevere.


Deacon’s Corner, November 1, 2020

November is a special month for Catholics as we remember those who have gone home to the Lord.  Notice, I didn’t say “died” here.  That’s because, as Christians, we believe in eternal life.  St. Paul said, “although we know that while we are at home in the body, we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:6-7).  So, if we believed what we see, life ends at death.  But it doesn’t.  For Christians, life does not end with death—it only changes form, and we go home to live forever in God’s Kingdom.

The Church’s funeral rite consists of three separate liturgies to celebrate someone’s death: the Vigil Service, the Funeral Liturgy, and the Rite of Committal at the cemetery.  On the evening before the Funeral Liturgy, we hold a scripture Vigil Service to gather in the presence of the deceased to pray, remember their life, and comfort the family in their grief.  The next day, the Funeral Liturgy is celebrated either within Mass or outside of Mass.  The Funeral Liturgy allows us to relive the Easter mystery and Christ’s promise of eternal life.  Afterwards is a graveside service, the Rite of Committal, to say farewell to our beloved brother or sister.  At this time, we commit our loved one to their earthly resting place and await the resurrection when our bodies will be rejoined with our souls at the Second Coming of Christ.

Our funeral rite offers worship, praise, and thanksgiving to God for the gift of our loved one’s life which we now return to God.  Together, all three parts of the rite allow the family to fully experience the Christian burial of their loved one, although, families do not have to select all three.   As a minimum, the Christian Funeral Liturgy should include the Rite of Committal with the Final Commendation to say farewell to our loved one and experience God’s graces when we commend them to His eternal care.

Celebrating Christian funerals brings hope and consolation to the living.  While proclaiming the Gospel and witnessing hope in the resurrection, the funeral rite also recalls God’s mercy and our need to turn to Him in times of crisis.   Through the Order of Christian Funerals, we recognize the spiritual bond that still exists between the living and the dead, and proclaim our belief that all the faithful will be raised up and reunited someday in the new heaven and new earth where death will be no more.

Deacon John


Mass Intentions October 31-November 8

Saturday, October 31

4:30pm – Bud Monahan by Family

Sunday, November 1

8:00am – Pauline Garr by Altar Rosary Society

11:00am – Steven Wagner by Keillor Family

Monday, November 2

8:00am – All the Faithful Departed

Tuesday, November 3

4:45pm – Confession & Adoration

5:45pm – Fr. Stan Czarnota

Wednesday, November 4

8:00am – People of the Parish

Thursday, November 5

8:00am – Rosemarie Shaffer by The Elliotts & Sullivans

Friday, November 6

9:00am – Fr. John “Jake” Foglio

Saturday, November 7

4:30pm – All the Holy Souls in Purgatory by Kathy Timberman

Sunday, November 8

8:00am – AJ Marry

11:00am – Rod Bellman by Family


2020 Election Information

In the 2020 Election, Michigan voters will cast their ballot for President of the United States, one of Michigan’s two U.S. Senate seats, two seats on the Michigan Supreme Court, two seats on the Michigan State Board of Education, all 14 seats in the Michigan congressional delegation, and the 110-member Michigan House of Representatives, in addition to local races and issues. As these decisions have significant impacts on the state and its communities, Michigan Catholic Conference (MCC) offers the following resources to help Catholics prepare for their voting choices.