Saint John Paul II
“There is no place for selfishness and no place for fear!
Do not be afraid, then, when love makes demands.
Do not be afraid when love requires sacrifice.”
October 22nd was the Feast day of Pope John Paul II. As we take a look at his life, his courage and love are striking. Saint John Paul spoke and wrote about God’s love through challenges for much of his life. We are not out traveling to 139 countries to meet with world leaders or establishing a “World Youth Day” but we are entrusted with raising our children to be saintly adults.
Raising our children can be challenging. It is easy to give God’s love to our children when they are obedient. But what about the times when they do not meet our expectations? That is when we can grow closer to God by responding with a loving attitude. Love without conditions. John 15:12 “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” This is really some of the best parenting advice ever. Unconditional love means we give a loving and respectful response even when our kids don’t deserve it. We have all been there. Your child is the one who throws tantrums. Your child is the one who is uncoachable. Your child is the one who forgets their homework. Your child is the one who can’t handle college. Your child is the one who learns lessons the hard way. Your child makes a really big mistake. This is when we must trust our God and love as He does. It is not what our child is failing to be; it is about what God is calling us, as parents to be. Loving without condition, is not natural. These disappointments make us angry and when we act out of anger the result does not enlighten us. It darkens the soul. Stop and remember how God loves. Pray. God is God and he is infinitely grander than we are. It is time to redirect our energy into prayer for our children. God has a plan. The path for our children will become more clear when we let God into our parenting. This does not mean we remove requirements and become permissive. We are not giving in; we are opening up to a new reality; a new path. Take time to think about what your child’s actions are really telling you about this beautiful child of God. Perhaps we are not looking with the correct lens. Maybe our perspective needs to change to be guided by the divine. Maybe raising our children should force us to grow up too.
Anne Atkin, Principal
“Yours is the gigantic task of overcoming all evil with good, always trying amidst the problems of life to place your trust in God, knowing that his grace supplies strength to human weakness. You must oppose every form of hatred with the invincible power of Christ’s love.” Saint John Paul II.