Purity and Anti-Pornography Resources

One of the hard realities of our modern world is the widespread and pervasive nature of pornography.  Through the internet and social media, it is literally everywhere. Often times people stumble upon it when they are young and it can lead to years of shame and silent struggle.  Due to the nature of this struggle people feel like they have to fight this alone.  Parents often feel ill equipped to guide and protect their children.  This is a resource guide to help men and women who are struggling with this sin, for those hoping to better protect themselves and their families, and for those simply hoping to learn more.

I want to end on a great encouragement- if this is a struggle don’t give up hope!  Know the Lord’s love, his mercy, and his desire to help set you free.  Never be afraid to bring this to confession or simply come and talk about it.  There is hope and you don’t need to fight it alone!

 

Anti-Pornography Resources

Catholic Websites

Christian Websites

  • http://www.livebold.org/ Live Bold Magazine (online) is one of the fastest growing publications for men and men’s ministry.
  • https://www.joinfortify.com/ -Fortify is a great website supporting men and women who are overcoming a struggle with pornography.
  • http://www.purehope.net pureHOPE endeavors to provide Christian solutions in a sexualized culture, leading to a world free of sexual exploitation and brokenness.
  • www.pureintimacy.org/ Pure Intimacy is an online ministry of Focus on the Family devoted to the biblical truth that human sexuality flows from the image of God that we bear as male and female and is a good gift from God.
  • http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/ Setting Captives Free is a non-denominational ministry which teaches the biblical principles of freedom in Jesus Christ. Our Christ centered courses are free of charge and help people escape impurity, over-eating, substance abuse, gambling, smoking and more.
  • http://www.thepinkcross.org/ Pink Cross Foundation is a faith-based IRS approved 501(c)(3) public charity dedicated to reaching out to adult industry workers offering emotional, financial and transitional support. We largely focus on reaching out to the adult film industry offering education and resources to victims of sex trafficking and violence in the workplace. Pink Cross Foundation also reaches out to those struggling with pornography addiction offering education and large doses of truth to recover.
  • http://beggarsdaughter.com/ Beggars Daughter is a Christian site run by Jessica Harris for and to women who struggle with pornography. She does much to expose the lie women feel that “they are the only one” and offers real help and resources for women

GENERAL WEBSITES/ Resource Lists

Secular Websites

  • http://www.no-porn.com/ Since 1997, No-Porn.com has helped men and women of all backgrounds recover from pornography addiction.
  • http://www.pornharms.com/ Pornography Harms is dedicated to providing the most accurate peer-reviewed research on the harm from pornography, along with relevant news, opinion and personal experience.
  • http://www.socialcostsofpornography.com/ The consultation on The Social Costs of Pornography assembled leading experts in the fields of psychiatry, psychology, neurophysiology, philosophy, sociology, law, and political theory to present a rigorously argued overview of the problem of pornography in our society and to make recommendations. The primary purpose of the meeting was to examine the real nature of pornography in its moral and social consequences.
  • http://www.x3pure.com/ The primary objective of the X3Pure project is to enable a speedy and effective recovery for men, women, couples and parents dealing with Internet pornography and other sex-related addictions in the most confidential and professional manner possible.

Spanish Websites

INTERNET FILTERING TOOLS & MEDIA SAFETY

  • http://www.covenanteyes.com/ CovenantEyes helps you protect your family online. Learn how the Internet is used in your home.
  • https://www.netnanny.com/ – Net Nanny is another great resource for filtering the internet as it comes into your home.  It has many great resources for families.
  • http://www.enough.org/ Enough is Enough has recently launched a new multi-media program, Internet Safety 101, to educate, equip and empower parents, educators and other caring adults with the knowledge and resources needed to effectively protect children from the dangers of online pornography, sexual predators, cyberbullies and threats relating to social networking, online gaming and mobile devices.
  • http://www.internetsafety.com/safe-eyes-parental-control-software.php Safe Eyes is Mac, PC, and iOS compatible software that protects your family from harmful content and other dangers on the Internet.
  • http://www.isafe.org/ i-SAFE is a non-profit organization dedicated to educating and empowering youth (and others) to safely, responsibly, and productively use information and communications technologies.
  • http://www.familysafemedia.com/ Family Safe Media provides parental control solutions for families concerned about the profanity, promiscuity and violence in today’s media and entertainment.
  • http://www.cleanhotels.com/ CleanHotels.com is a network of lodging facilities that—based on some of the best research available—do not offer in-room, “adult” (pornographic) pay-per- view movies.
  • www.purehope.net/ pureHOPE seeks to assist parents in making an informed decision when purchasing filtering, blocking, or monitoring software for their family.
  • FBI Kids Safety – resource that teaches children about internet safety.

SELF-HELP GROUPS

12-Step Groups

  • http://www.saint-mike.org/csgsar/ Catholic Support Group for Sexual Addictions Recovery. Sexual addiction can lead to arrest and prison. Avoid that tragedy and find freedom from this compulsion. Join us in the quest for healing and purity
  • http://www.sa.org/ Sexaholics Anonymous International. Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.
  • http://www.sanon.org/ S-Anon International. S-Anon is a program of recovery for those who have been affected by someone else’s sexual behavior.

Men’s Groups

  • http://www.thekingsmen.org/ Under Christ the King’s universal call to serve, we as The King’s Men pledge to unite and build up other men in the mold of leader, protector, and provider through education, formation, and action.
  • http://www.promisekeepers.org/ Promise Keepers’ mission has been to ignite and unite men to become warriors who will change their world through living out the Seven Promises.
  • http://www.dads.org/ St. Joseph’s Covenant Keepers is an informal international network of Christian men, under the patronage of St. Joseph, dedicated to strengthening the family.

Women’s Groups

  • http://www.womenofgrace.com/en-us/default.aspx Women of Grace is a Catholic apostolate whose mission is to transform the world one woman at a time by affirming women in their dignity and vocation as daughters of God and in their gift of authentic femininity.

BOOKS

English Books
  • Be a Man! Becoming the Man God Created You to Be, by Fr. Larry Richards.
  • Boys to Men: The Transforming Power of Virtue, by Tim Gray and Curtis Martin.
  • Breaking Free: 12 Steps to Sexual Purity for Men, by Stephen Wood.
  • The Courage to be Chaste, by Fr. Benedict J. Groeschel, C.F.R.
  • Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, Every Young Man’s Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation, Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle: Honest Conversations About Sexual Integrity, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker.
  • Holy Sex! A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling, Mind-Blowing, Infallible Loving, by Gregory K. Popcak, Ph.D.
  • Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage, by Meg Wilson.
  • In the Shadows of the N et: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior, Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, by Patrick Carnes.
  • Pure Manhood, by Jason Evert.
  • Pure Womanhood, by Crystalina Evert.
  • Theology of the Body for Beginners: A Basic Introduction to Pope John Paul II ‘s Sexual Revolution, by Christopher West.
  • Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tool for Recovery, by Kevin B.Skinner, Ph.D.

Spanish Books

  • Amor y Vida, por Patrick Reidy.
  • La belleza de la sexualidad, por Tomás Melendo.
  • Como sanar las heridas de la adicción sexual, por Dr. Mark Laaser.
  • Como usar las nuevas tecnologías en la familia, por Marianela Jaúdenes.
  • La moral sexual explicada a los jóvenes, por André Leonard.
  • ¡Por favor, háblame del amor!, por Inés Pelissie du Rausas.

ARTICLES

English Articles

 

Spanish Articles

 

RCIA

 

If you are planning on attending the RCIA sessions beginning in September, please contact Linda Higgins at 517-286-6426 to set up an appointment.

 

Flooring Project update

Our church flooring project is off to a great start!  The pews, old flooring, and wood platforms have been removed.  Installation of the subfloor in the Nave will wrap up this week.  The carpeting is on order and should be delivered the week of August 6th.

With the platforms removed, the original Sanctuary terrazzo/marble mosaic floor and communion rail kneeler step were revealed.  Both are in very good condition.  The restoration contractor inspected the floor and will be able to restore the terrazzo/marble mosaic as originally planned.  Although some cracking in the floor may be visible after restoration, it will blend in as part of a century-plus old floor after he finishes cleaning, repairs, and polishing the floor.

There were 2 unexpected findings when the old flooring was removed.  In the Narthex (main entry), asbestos was found in the adhesive used to glue the carpeting to the wood flooring.  In the main Sacristy, adhesive was also used to glue the carpet to the wood flooring, however, it was tested and found not to be asbestos.  Asbestos abatement was completed without impacting the schedule.

In addition to the flooring work, removal and restoring the main Sacristy cabinetry is underway.  The layout for reinstalling the pews was also finalized and approved by the flooring committee.  The new arrangement will make some accommodations for handicap seating and wheelchair locations, provide more space between the communion rail and front pew, widen the pew spacing to 34 inches, and provide an assembly area in the back of the church which can also be used to place folding chairs when needed.  The total seating capacity of the church will remain unchanged.  A copy of the new pew arrangement drawing will be posted within the next few days on the hall door leading upstairs to the church.  As a side note, pews not used in the new arrangement will be placed in storage.

The project is proceeding on schedule and within budget.  If all continues to go reasonably well, we hope to be back in the church on Labor Day weekend.  If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to call me.   Thank you and may God continue to bless our parish!!

 

 

Thank you Jan Fisher for another great video!!

 

 

Principal Anne Atkin Bulletin, July 22 2018

What Is My Purpose?

Let’s Face It….We all need a purpose.  My purpose is not same as yours.  The need for purpose is one of the defining characteristics of human beings.  We need to know that we are working for something important.  Our purpose is as individual as our fingerprints and it is what makes us unique.  Living the life that God has intended and talking to God every day, is the best way to fill our basic need to be appreciated, respected and useful.  It is truly awesome to stop for a minute and think about our special purpose.  Each and every one of us has unique gifts that belongs only to us.  They are our charisms.  A charism is an extraordinary power given to individuals by the Holy Spirit to live life as a follower of Christ.  Because they are freely given by God, they cannot be earned and they are not to be used for personal gain.

What is your charism? Perhaps you have the ability to make friends easily or you can jump right into a project and help get it finished.  Perhaps you have the gift of leadership or organization.  Maybe making music or planning events is your skill. Each of us has our own charism.  Special gifts that are to be respected.  As we grow closer together, and closer to Christ, my hope is that we all see our beautiful gifts, in ourselves and in each other.  Charism can be hard to see; it will require some quiet conversation with God.  What is my purpose?  Help me to find my gifts and to bring me closer to You.

God Bless,

Anne Atkin, Principal

 

Deacon’s Corner, July 22 2018

Last week, we talked about how gossip and rumors violate the Eighth Commandment.  They distort the truth about people which is hurtful and destroys that person’s dignity.  This week, let’s take a look at the virtue of “truth”.

The Eighth Commandment says “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.”  It obligates everyone to seek the truth.  The virtue of truth is all about sincerity and can be expressed in three ways: sincerity in ourselves, sincerity with others, and sincerity with God.  Sincerity with ourselves requires we acknowledge the truth about our own conduct, intentions, thoughts, feelings, and never ignore or fear the truth.  Sincerity with others is the ability to speak the truth so others can trust us.   If we lack integrity, our word is not reliable.  Sincerity with God means God can neither deceive nor be deceived.  It requires us to humbly examine our conscience and be honest with Him when confessing our sins.  The virtue of the truth is vital to our relationships with others.  Whether those relationships are among two people, members of families, within our community, or span across society; truth in speech, writing, or every form of communication and media, truth is what makes trusting human interaction possible.

Miscommunication – especially in the case of a direct lie, evasive language, gossip and rumors, or intentional withholding of the truth – creates mistrust within relationships and sows the seeds of scorn and hatred.  True peace, whether between individuals or nations, cannot be reached in an environment of distrust and falsehood.  The Eighth Commandment forbids misrepresenting the truth.  Offenses against the truth, either by words or actions, show others our refusal to commit ourselves to moral decency.  They are fundamental infidelities to God which undermine our relationship with Him – leading us into sin (CCC 2464-2469).

St Francis de Sales said, “Let your words be kindly, frank, sincere, straightforward, and true…remembering…it is never allowable to oppose the truth.  Make it your rule never knowingly to say what is not strictly true, either accusing or excusing, always remembering that God is the God of truth.”  

God is the source of all truth.  His law is truth.  May we pray this week for the grace to live the truth.

Deacon John

Adapted from The Catechism of the Catholic Church (2464-2469); and “Introduction to Catholicism” 

 

Fr. Todd Bulletin Article, July 22 2018

Dear Sacred Heart Family,

Our floor renovation is progressing very well and on schedule.  This past Monday, Fr. Tomy joined me on the farm for a tour and a visit.  I gave him a set of farm clothes in case a disaster happened but he came through unscathed without any manure on him!  It was also his first experience driving a tractor.  By the time we were done he was becoming an old hand.

 

With the example of our two patrons, the Sacred Heart and St. Mary, I want to turn to their example and wisdom for their direction and guidance in these two outposts of God’s Kingdom.  This week I want to turn to the example of our Blessed Mother.

Mary is a beautiful example of Discipleship, of what it means to be a Christian.  I am struck by her first and last words.   We meet Mary when the Angel Gabriel is speaking to her, asking her to be the mother of God.  Mary’s response to this request is “Let it be done to me according to your will”.  We hear Mary speak her last words when she is with Jesus at a wedding reception in Cana.  Seeing the need for wine she asks Jesus to take care of the problem and tells the servers to “Do whatever he tells you”.

We can learn a lot from Mary’s first and last words.  She begins by being totally open to God’s will- which is certainly harder to do than it is to say.  Those moments, big and small, come to each of us and we need to pray for the grace to also surrender ourselves.  It is important to remember that these moments are never a one-time event- our surrender to Jesus and His will is a daily choice.  Some days it is an hourly choice!  Mary said yes to the Angel Gabriel and she continued to say yes to the Lord even up to the foot of the cross.  Mary’s beginning posture of openness to God, even in incredibly difficult and confusing situations, was maintained throughout her life.  It needs to be the same for us.  When it is hard to say Yes Mary is there to pray for us and take her to Jesus just like she took that young couples need for wine to Him.

Which takes us to Mary’s last words- “Do whatever he tells you”.  Mary ends her words in the Gospels by simply pointing to Jesus.  If only our life can be that simple, where all we say or do would be words or actions that point to Jesus.  I have heard that a good metaphor for holiness is that of window.  The saints are a clean window, people through whom others can see Jesus clearly.  Jesus tells us He is the light that has come into the world. The question then becomes how much of His light can shine through us.

Mary, we ask for your help to surrender our lives more fully to Jesus on a consistent basis.  Help us to point always to you.  May our first words and our last words so define our lives.

 

God Bless!

Fr. Todd

 

Made for Happiness

DIOCESAN ASSEMBLY

PRAYER PROJECT
Bishop Boyea is looking for people to pray in a special way for the Diocese of Lansing and the upcoming Made for Happiness assembly. He has blessed 4 framed images of Our Lady of Guadalupe, patroness of the Americas, and is asking for these images to rotate between private homes throughout the Diocese of Lansing leading up to the assembly. Each family that volunteers is asked to pray with the image for half an hour or more in their home before passing it onto the next volunteer. Go to madeforhappiness.org and click on “Support” to sign up.

 

Vietnam Memorial Wall

 

The Hudson American Legion Hannan-Colvin Post 180 will be hosting the Vietnam Memorial Moving Wall on August 9-13 in the East parking lot at Hudson High School.

We are in need of help with setting up and tearing down, as well as helping visitors and people to assist with parking cars and guarding the wall 24 hours a day while it is here.

Base construction will start on Sunday, August 5 about 2:00pm and tear down will commence August 13 at 1:00pm.

Please consider helping with this worthwhile community project.  Time slots are available, please contact Jim Friedrich at 517-448-0039.  Donations are being accepted to help defray the cost of bringing the Memorial Wall to Hudson

 

Fr. Todd Homily, July 15 2018

This weekend we have an interesting contrast between the First Reading and the Gospel, depicting the day in the life of a Christian, they look radically different.

In the First Reading, when following the Lord, everything goes wrong.  In the Gospel, when following the Lord, everything is going right.

In these 2 realities, when things are going well, it’s easy to keep trucking along.  We they aren’t going well, frustration comes.

What do you do when the going gets rough?