Why do we say things that hurt?
There is a book called The Warm and Fuzzy Tale where every person in the village owned a special bag. It was given to them by their parents. Inside this bag were hundreds of warm fuzzies. When you gave someone a warm fuzzy, they felt warm and fuzzy inside. People in the village gave each other warm fuzzies anytime they wanted to let someone know they were loved.
One day, an evil sorceress came to town. She saw that everyone was giving out these warm fuzzies from their bags and she didn’t like it. She went up to one villager and said, “Why do you keep giving away your warm fuzzies? Aren’t you afraid you’re going to run out? Here, take this bag of cold pricklies and give these to the people in your village instead, and keep all your warm fuzzies for yourself.” The next time he ran into a friend, he handed him one of the cold pricklies from his new bag. A cold prickly made someone feel cold and prickly inside. Once you had a cold prickly, you wanted to give it away to someone else as fast as possible.
The main idea is that what we say and how we say it, is contagious. I think about why kids can say hurtful things to each other. Just be nice. It seems so simple but as they are growing and developing it is not always easy to be nice. Some people are just naturally more aggressive and some are more negative in general. That is okay, we all struggle with something. The answer is to create an environment where we identify kind and unkind words.
We have been letting our friends know when their words are warm and fuzzy or cold and prickly. It works great because it gently guides. The kids who have been on the prickly end, have just the right words to say how they felt. Let’s practice using our words to make the day better. It’s contagious.
Anne Atkin, principal