Meekness- God’s light in the struggle
“Nothing is going my way today. So and so won’t play with me. That kid stole the ball I was playing with. I hate story problems and I refuse to do them. You can’t make me. I did not have enough time to finish it. he teams are not fair. Nobody else is trying as hard as I am to win. There are too many rules. Why did that kid get a prize? Life isn’t fair.”
No, it isn’t. Anybody who has tried to see the world as black and white; with clear sparkly pathways to success and happiness to those of us who want it or work for it, quickly find out that life isn’t fair. Why does it look so easy for that person?
Very often, a student will be sent to my office because they are refusing to follow the rules. They cannot line up without throwing a fit. They were angry at recess and stormed off of the football field because no one will pass the ball to them. They do not want to attempt a certain type of schoolwork. They are angry and they feel the world is being exceptional hard on them, in particular. They feel that they are being singled out and unfairly pushed back by life.
They are, in fact struggling with a very specific virtue…..Meekness. A misunderstood word in our current culture. Meekness is the ability to give up control and see God in all things, in all people, in all situations. It is the ability to open our eyes and see beyond our own disappointment and frustration. It is the ability to call on patience and kindness, and to trust. Yes, we can help children understand that some things are not in our control and our surroundings will constantly change. It is within our minds to be able to adapt, to bend.
Self-control is the magic formula. It is time to practice how we react to the chaotic and unfair world around us. As the children develop self-control, they become stronger. Knowing the world can be unfair, and asking God to give us the strength we need to calm fear and anxiety can give us power. Meekness gives us a chance to take a time out from the intensity. Meekness reminds us that God is in charge and He gives us all of the power we need to handle the day. To see God in all things and to not judge; but to become reasonable and open to correction. To learn. To grow. To achieve. The meek will set their mind to God’s purpose and can learn to rebuild instead of breaking down. To shine.
Anne Atkin, principal